Post by jeff halls on Mar 10, 2013 18:23:19 GMT -5
Hello Jeffrey,
I watched you video on the athletic zone then found this site, I just wanted to post a question about focus, or maybe I should frame this rather as what is going on when we allow are selves to fall into distraction - what 'need' is being met, or perhaps what 'need' is not being fulfilled by allowing ourselves to habitually become distracted? I want to spend more time in the zone, but find my work, and meditation practice is falling by the way side, while too much energy is going into the pursuit of social connection over the net.
Maybe an odd question, and maybe I already know the answer, but I wanted to throw it out to try to help myself let go of certain distractions and focus more on what I could do to have that 'need' be met (what ever that 'need' may be defined as).
So here's one story which illustrates what I mean: When I was younger, I spent most of my time completely absorbed in my work at the computer. That was before internet and chat and surfing etc. But for too many years now I find that what I spend more time with now is being on the net, and to a large extent unproductively engaged in what I think is the fulfillment of a social need, a feeling of being connected to and engaged in some form of discourse with other people.
Maybe the answers are simple, but I wonder if this might promote some discussion, and I hope allow me (and others), let go of (false?) beliefs, or simple habits, of putting too much time and energy into ultimately frustrating endeavors such as surfing the net to 'connect' with other people. Perhaps it just comes down to moderation, but maybe not. I guess I am pretty much a lone wolf, so I do find that the net allows a feeling of being socially connected with other people in a way that I dont have in real life. But is is a huge distraction, or what I believe to be a distraction, without which I do get the feeling of 'with drawl' that many people speak of when not being 'connected' to the web for a few days.
I watched you video on the athletic zone then found this site, I just wanted to post a question about focus, or maybe I should frame this rather as what is going on when we allow are selves to fall into distraction - what 'need' is being met, or perhaps what 'need' is not being fulfilled by allowing ourselves to habitually become distracted? I want to spend more time in the zone, but find my work, and meditation practice is falling by the way side, while too much energy is going into the pursuit of social connection over the net.
Maybe an odd question, and maybe I already know the answer, but I wanted to throw it out to try to help myself let go of certain distractions and focus more on what I could do to have that 'need' be met (what ever that 'need' may be defined as).
So here's one story which illustrates what I mean: When I was younger, I spent most of my time completely absorbed in my work at the computer. That was before internet and chat and surfing etc. But for too many years now I find that what I spend more time with now is being on the net, and to a large extent unproductively engaged in what I think is the fulfillment of a social need, a feeling of being connected to and engaged in some form of discourse with other people.
Maybe the answers are simple, but I wonder if this might promote some discussion, and I hope allow me (and others), let go of (false?) beliefs, or simple habits, of putting too much time and energy into ultimately frustrating endeavors such as surfing the net to 'connect' with other people. Perhaps it just comes down to moderation, but maybe not. I guess I am pretty much a lone wolf, so I do find that the net allows a feeling of being socially connected with other people in a way that I dont have in real life. But is is a huge distraction, or what I believe to be a distraction, without which I do get the feeling of 'with drawl' that many people speak of when not being 'connected' to the web for a few days.